Help(?)
Have I ever benefited anyone? Has my crying-shoulder ever comforted? Has my well meaning advice ever made a difference? Have I ever really helped?
I've only been alive twenty-three years. I haven't seen or done all that much and I'm not a holy or wise man. Hell, I don't even look manly. My face has decided to stop at seventeen years old.
I know I'm not the brightest crayon in the box. I have no credentials, no merit badges, no spiritual notches in my belt. I've never left the country and studied with mysterious hermits high in misty mountains or obtained any deep knowledge of life, the universe, and everything.
But I do know things. I have been there. I am on the path and I have experienced things... Right?
I feel like giving up trying to help. Even though I feel deeply that what I have to say is helpful and my intentions are good I don't know if it has ever or will ever come out right. I feel like I'm failing.
I just want to help. I see my friends and my family going through hard things I have gone through and feeling things I have felt. My natural and spontaneous response is to try and help. Lend a listening ear. Offer a supporting shoulder. Relate my experience what I did/do to feel better.
Sometimes I feel like this is the right thing to do and others I feel like... its more harm than help. How do I know? How will I ever know?
- BuddhaDave
posted by BuddhaDave at
6:15 PM
3 Comments:
don't worry man you got a good shoulder
First, make sure the person wants help. If they are not asking for your advice, don't give it. Second, when you have shared your past experiences realize that the person you are trying to help has to make their own mistakes to learn anything. And finally, just because the person feels better today does not mean that things will not be terrible the next day. Or if they don't hear your words today, they might make sense in a week or never.
Just do what you do with a good heart. You have been helpful to others but you can't live their lives and you can't take their problems too personally.
-heather (Just my point of view ... here I am giving advice about giving advice!)
Well, Im not sure what you are going through right now. But I know this for a fact. A couple of months ago I was a complete mess, I thought for sure that the entire world had come crashing down on me. Well, it kind of did lol. You helped me stay strong and think possitive through one of the hardest times in my life. You listened to my rants and cries for at least 2 months and never once got annoyed with me. Well at least not that I know of =D. It put you in a tough situation having a mess like that happen between two of your good friends, but you were still there for me! I dont even have the words to thank you for that =D. When everyone else was telling me how stupid I was, you understood.
Thanks =D
Oh, and you know I am always here for you! Whenever you need anything! HUGSSSSSSS!
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